I had no idea what to order or how, as I had never been to a bar before.He reassured me that he would take good care of me, and went over to the bartender.I’ve only had sex with six guys.” This young woman was nineteen when she said this to me.Once, in a writing assignment about Socrates and the Allegory of the Cave, a student wrote that she decided to make better choices after she woke up one morning in a trailer, covered with scratches, naked, next to a man she didn’t remember meeting. All too often, these women come to me in a state of bewilderment.Women have never been more “sexually liberated” than these women are, or so they are told.No more are they shackled by ridiculous bonds like commandments, moral rules, words like “chastity.” They shout: “We’re free! ” It is no coincidence that the top two prescribed drugs at our state university’s health center are anti-depressants and the birth-control pill.
Had this fellow succeeded in taking me somewhere to do what he intended, I would have felt degraded.
And yet, whenever I tell people this story, they are shocked that I am making “such a big deal” about that night. It was years before I realized how very ashamed should have been.
In fact, given my age and obvious vulnerability, his behavior was predatory and vicious.
Our young women are showing up to a very different version of “college life” than that of the previous generation.
One woman, while in her freshman year, went to her health center because she feared she had bronchitis.